ASK AMY #9: Split In Between

I know the teachers try to say that there aren't any but to any student, it's obvious:There are groups to fit in. It's not like I'm not in any, the problem is quote the opposite. I'm in too many. I don't fit neatly into any group and there's not just one set of freinds I hang out with. Sometimes they don't quite agree and I'm left to choose. Or sometimes I have to ditch one to meet up with the other. It get annoying but I don't want to give up either one. I don't know what to do?
                                                                                   inbetween


Hi inbetween!

To start off, i want to say that is is a GOOD thing that you don’t fit “neatly” into one specific “group” . Being spread out and having different kinds of friends can give you a taste of everything, and may even help you out later in life. You'll be able to find what atmosphere you feel comfortable in, and what kinds of people you enjoy being with.
      Here are just some tips you may want to take into consideration:

1- On the ditching problem, just keep whichever plans you made first.
2- You may also choose to hang out with the person you feel more comfortable around, or someone you want to get to know better.
3- You don't have to feel like you HAVE to go to every single hang out one of your friends may plan.
4- If you want a simple excuse, just say your busy!
5- If you really just can't say no to one friend, try gathering all your friends into one big mosh pit, and let everyone get to know each other. this can help dissolve the distance between the different "groups" (keep in mind, this has a possibility to backfire)
6- Don't forget, It's normal to feel a little out of place especially in your middle school years.

Middle school is just the beginning of the rest of your life. This is a time to make friends, and figure out who you are. Don't fret, things will eventually fall right into place!
                           Best of Luck,
                                Amy <3

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